THE DEFINING RESULTS OF A GOOD LIFE


I remember clearly the deaths of three men. One was the richest man of the century, who, having clawed his way to wealth through the souls and bodies of men, spent many years trying to buy back the love he had forfeited and by that process performed great service to the world and, perhaps, had much more than balanced the evils of his rise. I was on a ship when he died. The news was posted on the bulletin board, and nearly everyone received the news with pleasure. Several said, "Thank God that son of a b.... is dead."
      There was a man, smart as Satan, who, lacking some perception of human dignity and knowing all too well every aspect of human weakness and wickedness, used his special knowledge to warp men, to buy men, to bribe and threaten and seduce until he found himself in a position of great power. He clothed his motives in the name of virtue, and I have wondered whether he knew that no gift will ever buy back a man's love when you have removed his self-love. A bribed man can only hate his briber. When this man died the nation rang with praise and, just beneath, with gladness that he was dead.
      There was a third man, who perhaps made many errors in performance, but whose effective life was devoted to making men brave and dignified and good in a time when they were poor and frightened and when ugly forces were loose in the world to utilize those fears. This man was hated by the few. When he died the people burst into tears in the streets and their minds wailed, "What can we do now? How can we go on without him?"
      In uncertainty I am certain that underneath their topmost layers of frailty men want to be good and want to be loved. Indeed, most of their vices are attempted short cuts to love. When a man comes to die, no matter what his talents and influence and genius, if he dies unloved his life must be a failure to him and his dying a cold horror. It seems to me that if you or I must choose between two courses of thought or action, we should remember our dying and try to live that our death brings no pleasure to the world.
"Which man are you?" 
My favorite words from John Steinbeck's, East of Eden

THANKS TO MY CHILDREN

Today is Mother's Day and I want to take time to thank my children for making life so sweet. My children are my best friends and there's no one I'd rather spend time with than family. So, here's to the ones that made the difference in my life!

Thank you for your love and kindness, especially your examples of genuine care and concern for others.  Many times I have witnessed your willingness to assist strangers in need, without judgement or conditions; you inspire me with your generosity and I hope to grow up to be just like all of you!

Thanks for the "goofy sense of humor and practical jokes" that you have kept in perpetual motion!  I have enjoyed a lifetime of laughter and there's never a dull moment when we're together. The hilarious skits and talents you have shared over the years has given me a lifetime of cherished memories! My favorite is when each one of you kept changing the screen saver on my phone to your goofy selfies and writing across the screen, "MOM LOVES ME BEST!" I never knew who's picture would pop up next.  How in the world you got my phone without me knowing is still a mystery and yes you are right, I ALWAYS loved you best!

Thanks for the great food and believe it or not, the boys can out cook the girls. Sorry girls, but it's true. Your brothers bring it on every time.  Not that you aren't great cooks, cause you are, but they seem to be fearless!

Thanks for being wonderful parents and for teaching your children honesty and self respect. I guess all those times you were grounded and had to work your way out of the "dog house" has taught you the value and importance of choice and accountability.  Sweeeeeeet and passing it on to the second generation, no less!

Thanks for supporting a strong work ethic and for not being afraid to apply yourselves. You've always stood head and shoulders above mediocre and if I've said it once, I've said it a thousand times, "Quitters never win and winners never quit." Thanks for pushing yourselves; the picture of success is always much clearer at the top.

Thanks for calling and texting me everyday! There is nothing better for a mother than to get a messages from her child that says, "Where the heck are you??? I am trying to get ahold of you and you're not answering your phone, I am worried! Contact me right away."  Ha, I am just getting back at you for all those teenage years when I said the same things to you!

I laugh every time I think that during high school, some of you spent months plotting to get out of the house... and the rest of your lives trying to get back in!!! Guess I got the last laugh on that one!

I don't have words to express how much I love each one of you and I wouldn't change a thing. When you were younger, the tears in life built strength and wisdom, the struggles brought about loyalty and devotion, and the laughter just made it all worth it! Thanks again for the best run of my life!   I love each of you with all my heart.  Hugs and kisses, Mom

P.S. The best gifts you ever gave me were the grandchildren.  Couldn't be more proud of them!




 

EVERY LITTLE THING MATTERS

 Kindness is the universal language that brings us all together, and regardless of our nationality or language, everyone can feel its power. Kindness is about showing up in the live's of others for the greater good, and expecting nothing in return. A study by Rowland and Curry in 2019 found that people who performed acts of kings for seven days experienced greater happiness, and it created a tremendous ripple effect that inspired others to act the same. Showing kindness also increases gratitude; one small tree can produce a million match sticks providing light and warmth to many. 

A kind environment is the foundation for peace and harmony in the home and workplace. Kindness is intentional and it's created
                                                                    out of self-love, self-respect and self-esteem. Love and kindness 
                                                                    are two gifts that only increase in value when they are given 
                                                                    away.

Every creation in life has meaning and purpose. When climbing the ladder of success, we will pass by many people on the way up, but we will also pass those same people on the way down. Be kind and good to those around you, and you will find an abundance of love and kindness in return. No act of kindness, no matter how small is ever wasted, and the sweet secret of life is, "all that is worth doing, is that which we do for others." 

Kindness also accompanies gratitude. There is nothing more valued and respected than a heart filled with gratitude. Gratitude is a powerful virtue that can change darkness into light. Remember the Bees: Be good, Be kind, Be loving, Be humble and Be grateful, and you will always be BE-UTI-FUL.   Linda Sumner Urza, onefineday11.blogspot.com